In our previous article, we explored how leaders can guide their teams through change by adopting different thinking styles, as highlighted in Adam Grant’s “Think Again.” We dove into the significance of the Scientist thinking style, among others, and how it can be a game-changer in fostering innovation and adaptability. Building on that foundation, let’s dive deeper into a personal exploration of these thinking styles. This journey is not just about leading others; it’s about understanding ourselves and how we can shift our thinking to build stronger, more trusting relationships.
Recognizing Your Thinking Style
First things first, let’s talk about figuring out which hat you’re wearing. Are you in preacher mode, convinced your way is the only way? Or maybe you’re playing the prosecutor, ready to point out flaws in someone else’s argument. Sometimes, we’re politicians, bending our words to win favor. Then there are moments we put on our scientist goggles, open and curious, ready to test out ideas and learn something new.
Here are somethings you can keep in mind when wearing these different hats and building on your thinking styles:
Step 1: Pause and Reflect
Catch yourself in the moment. This could be when you’re debating with a friend, planning with your team, or even deciding on a personal goal. Ask yourself, “What’s my goal here? Am I trying to convince, win over, or explore?”
Step 2: Ask for Feedback
Sometimes, we’re the last to know how we come across. It’s like having spinach in your teeth; everyone can see it but you. Ask a trusted friend or colleague how they see you in discussions or decisions. You might be surprised by what you learn.
Step 3: Embrace the Shift
Once you start noticing your go-to style, play with shifting gears. If you’re about to launch into a passionate plea, pause. What would happen if you approached the conversation with curiosity instead?
Leveraging Your Awareness
Knowing your thinking style and learning to adapt it to the situation can be a powerful tool, especially when it comes to building trust and relationships.
Building Trust
Trust grows in environments where people feel heard and valued. If you’re always in preacher or prosecutor mode, you might be missing chances to connect. By showing you’re open to other perspectives (like a scientist), you signal that you value others’ input, laying a foundation for trust.
Strengthening Relationships
Relationships thrive on mutual respect and understanding. By shifting from trying to win the conversation to exploring ideas together, you open up space for deeper connection. It’s about moving from “me against you” to “us figuring this out together.”
Adapting to the Situation
Some situations call for a firm stance (preacher), while others might benefit from a bit of political finesse. The key is to choose your approach based on what will most effectively build understanding and cooperation, not just what feels most comfortable in the moment.
Practical Steps for Everyday Situations
Let’s say you’re in a meeting, and there’s a disagreement. Instead of automatically defending your viewpoint, take a moment to consider whether a different approach might lead to a better outcome. Perhaps adopting a curious, scientist-like attitude could open up a dialogue that uncovers a solution everyone can support.
Conclusion
Building on our exploration of thinking styles for navigating change, we see that self-awareness and adaptability are not just valuable leadership skills; they’re essential for meaningful personal growth and relationship building. By understanding our own tendencies and learning to adjust our approach, we can foster deeper connections and build trust in all areas of our lives. Here’s to embracing flexibility in our thinking and enriching our relationships along the way. Let’s continue to grow together.
References:
Boies, K., Fiset, J., & Gill, H., 2015. Communication and trust are key: Unlocking the relationship between leadership and team performance and creativity. Leadership Quarterly, 26, pp. 1080-1094.
Ishola, S., & Adetola, R., 2019. Leadership Styles as Tool for Promoting Staff Cordial Relationship. South Asian Research Journal of Humanities and Social Sciences.
